How to Say ‘Here’s What I Can Do’ Without Over-Explaining or Defending Yourself

Some people need to learn to set caregiving boundaries without over-explaining. If you tend to explain yourself too much or your explanation isn’t working, these might be good options.

• “Here’s what I’m able to do right now [insert offer].”
• “I can help with [specific task], but I won’t be able to take on more than that.”
• “This is what I can realistically offer.”
• “I want to be upfront so no one’s left guessing or making assumptions, this is what I can manage.”
• “I care about what’s happening, and this is the support I can realistically give.”
• “I know this situation is hard for everyone. I’ve thought about what’s doable for me, and here’s what that looks like.”
• “I want to be helpful. Here’s what works for me.”
• “I understand this isn’t ideal for everyone, but this is what I’m able to contribute.”
• “I know you wish I could do more. This is what I can do and still manage everything else.”
• “That’s not something I can take on, but here’s what I can offer.”
• “I’m not available for that, though I can help by [specific action].”
• “I can’t manage the daily care, but I can check in with updates or coordinate meals.”
• “I can do this part.”
• “That’s not something I can take on.”
• “I’ve made a plan for what I can handle.”